Visiting the Sick

Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt”l, (YD 1:223) explained that the primary place to daven for the choleh is in front of him. The Divine Presence rests by a sick individual, and a prayer uttered in the presence of the choleh may be more effective. However, Rav Shlomo Zalman, zt”l, cautioned the visitor against causing the patient any duress or anxiety. If the patient knows that the person is praying for him, he may come to conclude that his situation is dire. In that scenario, a person should turn away from the choleh and daven quietly. The Gesher HaChaim suggests praying on the way out of the sick individual’s room. This way the patient won’t notice the prayer. Ultimately, if these solutions are not feasible, a person should simply pray in the adjacent room. Rav Elyashiv suggests that simply blessing the patient with a heartfelt refuah sheleima suffices for a prayer. Still, a perfunctory mumbling of refuah sheleima on the way out is not considered a prayer. (Mitzvos Bikur Cholim pg 13)

The Shulchan Aruch rules that davening in the place of a choleh is so auspicious that, one may pray there in any language. Otherwise, the Shulchan Aruch advises one to daven for the choleh in Lashon HaKodesh.

Rav Moshe Feinstein writes further that no one else can fulfill the mitzvah of bikur cholim in the same way that each unique visitor can. While others may care for the needs of the patient in the same way, or even better, no one can replace each individual’s prayers. Even if hundreds of others are praying for the individual, his tefillah can make a difference. Obviously, one must be careful not to overburden the patient with visitors!

It is therefore understandable why the Beer Moshe says that one should try to fulfill bikur cholim by actually visiting the sick individual and not merely calling him on the telephone. When he is present, he can see what the patient actually needs. He could ensure that the patient is being treated properly by the medical staff. Moreover, he has the special merit of praying in the presence of the Shechina. The Beer Moshe finds support for his ruling from our Gemara. The words in the pasuk that refer to bikur cholim are “Asher yailchu, that they shall walk.” The mitzvah should literally be fulfilled by walking to visit the choleh. Indeed, Rav Elyashiv was reported to have ruled that one cannot fulfill the mitzvah of bikur cholim by telephone. The phone call fulfills the general mitzvah of gemilas chasadim, but not the more specialized mitzvah of bikur cholim. (SA Dirshu YD 335:17)

Rav Moshe Feinstein disagreed. He further cautions against abandoning the mitzvah if one can’t attend in person. A phone call can lift the spirits of a sick individual. Moreover, during the conversation, he will empathize more with the plight of the patient. Therefore, his tefillos on his behalf will be superior. Rav Moshe ruled that a phone call to a patient fulfills the mitzvah of bikur cholim to some degree. Still, one should try to visit in person to fulfill the mitzvah in a more complete manner.

Hashem should quickly send a refuah to cholei Yisrael.